ADHD Counselling

ADHD BodyTalk therapy and Reiki

ADHD Counselling

Recently, I’ve had the rewarding experience of assisting young athletes with ADHD. ADHD remains one of the most misunderstood conditions, posing unique challenges for many youths. While it often equips individuals with bursts of concentrated energy – a potential advantage in performance-driven areas like sports or acrobatics – it’s seldom the strength that brings them to my doorstep. The primary areas of concern tend to be their personal relationships, self-identity, and home life.

It’s important to highlight that some individuals with ADHD exhibit a higher susceptibility to substance dependencies, such as alcohol, marijuana, and cigarettes. Interestingly, this trend appears slightly less prevalent among ADHD athletes compared to the general populace. When discussing addiction, it’s essential to realize that many with ADHD are exceptionally sensitive to external feedback, which often stems from an internalized negative self-image due to their unique cognitive wiring. Feeling perpetually off-kilter, they may seek solace in substances to mute their inner critic. Unfortunately, this often exacerbates issues in relationships, disrupts school and work responsibilities, and deteriorates their home environment.

Strategy

One strategy I’ve found effective is guiding them through pineal gland activation and encouraging the conscious engagement of the brain’s left temporal lobe. This facilitates a calm, methodical mindset dominated by structured thinking. Regularly accessing this state can greatly aid in task completion and provide a sense of capability when comparing themselves to peers. The pineal gland plays a crucial role here; it’s believed to decode emotional and intuitive messages relayed by the soul. Strengthening this connection can lead to profound self-acceptance and clarity about life’s purpose, offering a resilient buffer against daily ADHD-related hurdles.

Another essential technique I employ is Heart Clearing. Given the emotional baggage many with ADHD carry, releasing these entrenched negative memories can be transformative. Heart clearing is essentially an opportunity to let go of lingering pain and unresolved issues. This process has proven life-altering for many and is particularly pivotal for those with ADHD, paving the way for genuine self-empowerment.

The Beauty of a Broken Heart

Healing a Broken Heart

The Beauty of a Broken Heart

The beauty of a broken heart.  There can be great beauty in a broken heart. Sometimes life can change in an instant. One day we are deeply in love, and the next day we are crushed with loneliness, sadness, and anger. When the heart breaks, it is important not to try and fix it or deny it. Just sit with it for a time and feel your heart. Send your heart love.

I believe that our lives are organized like a pocket watch with many gears. Some relationships are like fast moving gears, while others creep along like a sunrise. We must trust the bigger picture of our lives. What did we learn from ourselves in our interaction? What inspired us about that person? I believe that we get to see a different side to ourselves through the eyes of different people. The secret is not to lose what we have found in ourselves. This is the true gold that can never be taken away.

As time passes, we can connect to the different parts of our psyche without the need of a certain person to catalyze this process. Keep that broken heart open. We have a doorway to our true self that we sometimes hide from our own awareness. Other people can be just a symbol of what we most needed to find within ourselves. Like a miner digging for gold. The dirt should not be the focus of our labor, but rather the specks of gold.

Refine your experiences down to the core of what you needed most to find. Maybe it is about gaining personal power, or the ability to allow yourself to let go and get swept away.

Letting Go

To detach from a person, it important to resolve the anger and this can be done in many ways. A personal favorite of mine is the ancient Hawaiian practice of Hoʻoponopono. Hold the feeling of space between you and the person you need to release. You repeat over and over:

“I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank-you, I love you.”

It doesn’t matter if you feel the person deserves forgiveness or not. This is not just the releasing of the emotional tethers that hold people to you, this is also about self-forgiveness. We say this to ourselves to help our own healing process as well as on behalf of another person.  Contact me for a Heart Clearing if you would like some help in this process.

Find the closure with others who we need to release.

Keep your heart open. Never shut it down. Not for that person, or the next one.