Emotional Pain In The Joints

Let us talk about pain.  Sometimes, a new client will arrive for a Reiki session to help them relax or counteract the toll that anxiety has on their body, mind, and soul. As part of my intake procedure, I ask many questions to refine their emotional imbalance need down to a core issue. Emotional pain can often relate to a body part.

  • Fear is in the knees,
  • decision making is in the ankles,
  • ego pressure shows up in the elbows,
  • spine is about support,
  • the neck is usually about the will,
  • shoulders are about carrying burdens.

Let’s say that a person comes in with a chronic back issue.  After a bit of conversation, it turns out that they are also in a relationship where they feel unsupported- materially, emotionally, financially or any other definition of support.  No matter how many chiropractic treatments, massages, or physical therapy, the pain always returns.   During this conversation, I usually tune into many different layers relating to the pain they are looking to release.  This level of detail is incredibly important because the treatment always fits the cause.  A physical cause will heal through a physical means.  Emotional pain in joints is always treatable in an emotional way.  As the conversation continues, the treatment unfolds.

As a child, we have the crying mechanism to recover from all types of pain.  This natural release is not always necessary as an adult.  Don’t get me wrong.  Crying happens when certain issues and memories flood into focus.  I use modalities that are appropriate for each case such as Active Memory Technique from BodyTalk, yogic breathing techniques, and Ho’oponopono from Hawaiian Kahuna practice. The particular therapy seems not to be as important as the fact that the mind and the heart have done something in the direction of healing.  I like to call this a “permission slip” to quote one of my favorite gurus.  Emotional people cry, intellectuals need to talk and reason, and kinesthetic people usually need a hug.  We are all a combination of these personality types.

The emotional heart can heal and forgive almost anything if it is relied upon to function as a release mechanism. No matter what we have experienced, the heart will keep on beating.

The Beauty Of The Broken Heart

There can be great beauty in a broken heart. Sometimes life can change in an instant. One day we are deeply in love, and the next day we are crushed with loneliness, sadness, and anger. When the heart breaks, it is important not to try and fix it or deny it. Just sit with it for a time and feel your heart. Send your heart love.

I believe that our lives are organized like a pocket watch with many gears. Some relationships are like fast moving gears, while others creep along like a sunrise. We must trust the bigger picture of our lives. What did we learn from ourselves in our interaction? What inspired us about that person? I believe that we get to see a different side to ourselves through the eyes of different people. The secret is not to lose what we have found in ourselves. This is the true gold that can never be taken away.

As time passes, we can connect to the different parts of our psyche without the need of a certain person to catalyze this process. Keep that broken heart open. We have a doorway to our true self that we sometimes hide from our own awareness. Other people can be just a symbol of what we most needed to find within ourselves. Like a miner digging for gold. The dirt should not be the focus of our labor, but rather the specks of gold.

Refine your experiences down to the core of what you needed most to find. Maybe it is about gaining personal power, or the ability to allow yourself to let go and get swept away.

To detach from a person, it important to resolve the anger and this can be done in many ways. A personal favorite of mine is the ancient Hawaiian practice of Hoʻoponopono. Hold the feeling of space between you and the person you need to release. You repeat over and over:

“I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank-you, I love you.”

It doesn’t matter if you feel the person deserves forgiveness or not. This is not just the releasing of the emotional tethers that hold people to you, this is also about self-forgiveness. We say this to ourselves to help our own healing process as well as on behalf of another person.  Contact me for Spiritual Mentorship if you would like some help in this process.

Find the closure with others who we need to release.

Keep your heart open. Never shut it down. Not for that person, or the next one.